How to Get a Girlfriend

how to get a girlfriend
This may help you get a girlfriend. Bicycle not included.

If you want to get a girlfriend but don’t know how… this could be the most important page you read all day.


Because even if you’ve been single for years and have no idea where to start.

Or been in the game playing the field but haven’t found that special girl yet…

This may help you get a girlfriend. Fast!

You see…

If you stop and think about it, you’ll get yourself a girlfriend if you can find that one girl who’ll agree to be your girlfriend, right?

Of course, she can’t be just any girl. she has to be “the” girl. It’s finding a match that makes getting a girlfriend so frustrating for many guys.

And because most of the time, they don’t even know exactly what they want in a girlfriend. So how can they find one?

So before you do anything else… ask yourself this very important question:

What kind of girlfriend do you want?

Is intelligence, sense of humor, respect for other people important to you?

Describe her in detail.

List all her traits that appeal to you including physical attributes like looks, height, and age.

Picture the exact qualities and traits you need in a girl to have a good relationship with her.

Even if the girl of your dreams have a great face and a stunning figure, don’t compromise on the essentials. Focus on the traits that you can’t easily change.

Do this right now!

Not only will this save you time, it will also make you more attractive to women. How?

First, knowing what you want will allow you to be a little selective and reject a lot of women who don’t fit the image of girl you want.

Then, you’ll become the chooser instead of the chosen which puts you in a position of power. And being in the position of power is attractive to women.

You see…

If you’ve gotten to the point where you’re meeting a lot of women and getting a date is easier, you’ll want to be sure to filter out the bad ones early on.

Remember, you are the chooser here not the chosen.

When you feel like “the man” with the power, you’ll be able to maintain a strong confident attitude.

And the difference in mindset between a guy trying to get women impressed and a man out to see if any women can impress him… is night and day.

If she’s the type of girl you are attracted to and can see yourself dating, find out what type of girl she is within the first couple of hours of meeting her.

Get to know the real her.

Ask her questions that reveal the type of girl she is so you can easily paint a picture of her.

This will save you from wasting a lot of time and keep you from choosing the wrong girl, just because she’ll get with you.


Before we get to on to finding the girlfriend you want…

Look Good

Unless you’re handsome, rich, famous and getting a girl attracted to you isn’t really a challenge…

You better do your best to look good because how you look is important. Body odor, stinky breath, greasy, unkempt hair is unattractive to women.

With that said…

Stay in shape. Lose weight or add muscle if necessary.

You can aim to get the body of a Greek god but you don’t have to go that far.

Pay attention to your grooming from head to toe. Get a really nice haircut and wear clean and wrinkle-free clothing.

You don’t really have to be the best-looking person in the room, you just need to make a good first impression.

And… the more you take good care of yourself, the more attractive you’ll become and the more confident you’ll feel.

And the more confident you feel, the sexier you’ll become in the eyes of women.

Just imagine those beautiful eyes filling up with desire the moment you come into their view. Yeah, let it sink for a moment.


Here’s another thing I want you to remember:

Don’t rush

Don’t make it your priority to be in a relationship.

That’s right!

Don’t make this mistake, even if you really, really want to get a girlfriend. Or you’ll end up looking desperate.

Women can sense when you’re desperate. It stinks of fear and anxiety.

So don’t ever let wanting to find a girlfriend dominate your life. If you don’t want to scare away lots of girls.

And begging every girl you meet to go out with you is simply unattractive.

Don’t be in a hurry to get a girlfriend, either.

You don’t have to settle for the first girl that comes along because you don’t really want to be in a relationship with the wrong girl–a girl that won’t make your life any happier.


If you want to avoid being desperate for a girlfriend and find a good woman, there’s really only one thing you can do.

It’s this:

Instead of looking for a girlfriend, focus on making good friends and improving your social network.

This will help you in a couple of ways.

First, you won’t be as lonely if your social network is huge. Hence, you won’t be desperate for a girlfriend.

Second, when you talk to as many women as possible, not just girls you’re immediately attracted to, you can improve conversation skills and learn how women think and feel.

This will be very useful to you.

And best of all, this will help you find a good woman.

Look, you’ll want to meet and date lots of women because this can help you figure out what you really want.

Often times, what you thought you wanted when you started wasn’t really that important.

So network as much as you can because the more girls you meet the more chances you’ll have of finding the right girl for you.

Connect with everyone

Make friends with people everywhere you go. Don’t be too picky because, down the line, they may introduce you to a girl you’ll like.

Get in touch with those you know. Expand your network of friends. Go to parties and social events. or even better, organize one yourself.

Get involved in activities you enjoy or something that sounds like fun.

That way, you’ll likely meet girls with similar interests and passions. And of course, when you explore new activities, you’ll expand your horizon and circle of friends.

Now, there are many…

Ways to Meet Women

You probably meet women every day who could be your potential girlfriend.

She could be your hot neighbor, a co-worker, a classmate, or a girl in places you frequent like your favorite coffee shop or hangout.

You can do something to attract them.

Since you see her often, you can get familiar with her and build attraction over time.

It’s can be as simple as saying ‘Hi’ or ‘Hello’ every time you see her. Then after some time, you can start a conversation until she gets comfortable talking with you.

Later, you can invite her out.

If you don’t meet that much girls daily, you can go to a place where girls are working out. Maybe you can sign up for one of the classes, like perhaps, yoga.

Become a regular and befriend the girls.

Another easy way to meet women is during the day.

It’s easy because you can meet any number of women depending on where you go. And because not many guys are doing it, you won’t have any competition.

You can either start a conversation with any girl you see by asking her for an opinion or direction. That way, it’s less threatening and feels more natural.

Another way to approach her is to tell her exactly your intent and being direct about it. Doing this way can be flattering to her and you won’t have to think about transitioning.

If you want to get serious with daygame, see this later.

In the meantime, here are some of the best areas to meet pretty girls during the day:

One such place is a busy street area where beautiful women are often spotted or shopping malls where women shop in groups or on their own.

There should be plenty of girls who are not busy and just wandering around.

Just pick a girl and start a friendly conversation.

Build rapport and ask her to join you for a quick coffee.

Of course, you can go in one of the stores and ask a beautiful girl to help you in picking out something.

Another great place to meet women where they are almost always alone is coffee shops. It seems to be one of their favorite places to be in.

It’s a great place to sit down and start a conversation as well.

You can always find them in abundance during lunchtime, just like the park when it’s summer.

Like I said, there are many places to meet women during the day. Explore and you might just bump into your next girlfriend.

Now if you want to find the prettiest girls at nightclubs and bars, go to high-end ones.

There are many ways to meet women there but it will be simpler if you use your social circle and build social proof.

Simply walk around the club and talk to people. Get to know the manager, the staff and some cool people who know the hottest women.

If you can build this relationship over time, this can save you the trouble of approaching girls yourself.


That’s just some of the many ways you can meet women. You don’t have to limit yourself to these options, either.

In fact, don’t rely on just one method to meet women.

That way, if one method doesn’t work for you, it won’t have that much impact on your success.

It could be fun to try speed dating or online dating once in a while, too.

Remember, you can’t rush things.

It’s great if you can find the one you’re looking for quickly. Maybe she’s just around the corner near where you live or in your work or school.

Usually though…

You’ll need to be a little patient where you’ll have to try new places or activities to meet the girlfriend you are searching for.

You’ll probably agree that you’ll be better equipped getting a girlfriend if you are good (or better than most guys) at meeting women.

And if you want to get that good and get into a rhythm, you’ll need to go out regularly and consistently…

Approach Lots of Girls

Go to places you think you might find girls and talk to a bunch of women.

When you see an attractive girl, talk to her, no matter the time.

And when you start conversations…

Don’t take things too seriously. Having fun helps avoid caring about the potential rejection and you’ll seem like a cool and fun person.

You don’t have to fear rejection. Don’t make that as an excuse.

There is no valid excuse
not to talk to a girl!

The worst she would say is ‘no’ and walk away.

Additionally, what is say is not as important as how you say it and the way to making a deep connection is about exchanging energy.

One way you can do that effectively is by making her laugh. (If you want to know the right kind of humor that attracts women, go here.)

As you know, girls love guys who have a good sense of humor, and the key to that is to be lighthearted.

Don’t try too hard.

Don’t even worry whether she thinks you’re funny or not.

If she can’t laugh with you, then she isn’t the girl you want. You’ll find another girl who might be laughing so hard at your humor, tears are coming out of her eyes.

Next, you want to avoid falling into the “friend zone”.

Make her realize that you’re a potential partner and not just another good guy friend.

To remind her of that fact and make it stick… flirt with her.

That includes making physical contact.

Don’t be afraid of playfully touching her arm during a high point in the conversation or putting your hand on the small of her back to guide her through the crowd.

And when you feel the conversation is drawing to a close…

Whether you’re talking in person or even texting, end the conversation first.

This helps prevent the interaction from lingering in any awkward silences, shows you’re busy and allows you to end the conversation on a positive note which in turn will make her want more.

And before you forget it…

Get her contact info if it’s your first meeting.

A simple, “Hey, I’ve gotta go, but it’s been really good talking to you. Let’s continue this over a cup of coffee sometime…”

Wait and listen to what she says. Remember, it doesn’t matter what she says next; she’s not the only girl you’ll meet.

So be confident and willing
to ask her out

Set up the first date as soon as you can since first dates are usually the flakiest.

Take the initiative; women like that in men.

Find out when she’s available to meet.

Ask her plans for the next few days so you know what her schedule is like. Doing this lets you avoid selecting a wrong date and getting turned down.

When you know she’s available, you can even arrange the date on the spot. You can then get to know each other over coffee or something.

On a side note, don’t put everything in texting. Why?

Because this is where most men screw up. And when the attraction fizzles out, they become needy and frustrated.

So be sure to ask her out as soon as you can. Sometimes, you only need these 3 texts to get her out.

And whenever you’re with a girl, be sure to…

Gauge her Interest

How would you know if she likes you?

That’s why knowing how to read her signals is important if you want to you know what to do next.

For instance, when you’re together and she responds well to your flirting, laughs at jokes, and is very comfortable around you… then she’s probably interested.

Otherwise, if she sits far away from you, seems defensive and uncomfortable, or refuses to even look you in the eye, then she’s either shy or just hasn’t warmed up to you yet.

Same goes for texting.

You’ll know she’s not interested when you’re the only one who seems to be doing all the work to keep a conversation going.

Even more when her replies are too short like she’s trying to be polite or just responding without giving you the wrong idea.

Additionally, if you’re getting mixed signals, it’s better to rely on what you read in-person. You can also talk to mutual friends to understand her behavior.

Anyway, when her signals seem promising, proceed to…

Getting a girlfriend

By now, you probably now have met a couple of girls you can see yourself in a relationship with.

Just know that each relationship evolves differently.

If you want to ask her to be your girlfriend…

You should have at least gone to three or more dates and the attraction is still there. If it is clear that you both like each other, you can make her your girlfriend if you want.

Do it this way.

Make her want you to be her boyfriend before you want her to be your girlfriend.

You want to be everything she wants in a man and be a true gentleman on every date. But don’t give her everything she wants.

Don’t be predictable.

This is key.

And since women like to chase, this will keeps things exciting.

Learn how to make her chase, so she will crave for your attention, actively seek you out, text and call you, and…

Get her constantly
thinking about you

You see, when you have control of the relationship, it will be easier to transition from just another guy friend to actual boyfriend.

Once you are sure there is a strong mutual attraction, ask her to be your girlfriend.

You can do this in a creative way or simply ask her in person. Never do it over text or chat.

Hopefully, this new relationship brings happiness and color to your world.

If, however, things don’t go as you envisioned… when things don’t fall into place and life just doesn’t seem to get it…

Don’t rush into things

Don’t let the wrong woman get the role of your girlfriend.

Because you never know, you might cross paths with your future girlfriend later today or tomorrow.

With that thought…

Here are some…

More Girlfriend-getting Tips

  • Emphasize your best features; downplay your undesirable traits so you can make most of what you have, physically and mentally.
  • Learn how to make a girl feel good about herself; take interest in her life and aspiration, even if you have no clue what it is.
  • Show you care, deeply, about her health and welfare.
  • Don’t be like everybody else or conform to the masses.
  • Get creative with how you approach and meet women.
  • Show your sensitive side. See if women really go crazy over you.
  • Women want what they can’t have.
  • To be sexy to women, have dreams and goals; be passionate about something and ruthlessly pursue it. Build a life women want to be part of.
  • Don’t revolve your entire universe around someone. Learn how gender roles affect relationship and attraction from The Tao of Badass.
  • Don’t be someone you are not. If you don’t find something funny, don’t laugh just because she is laughing hard enough for the both of you.
  • Dial it down, don’t come on too strong or too fast with your text messages.
  • It all comes back to how you feel about yourself. Women don’t want a man with self-esteem issues; they want a man who’s fully aware how desirable he is.
  • Force yourself beyond your comfort zone; putting yourself out there is key.
  • Get real about yourself and about what you’re seeking; you don’t want to send mixed signals and scare her off.

And remember…

Meet as many people as you can.

Make new friends. It doesn’t matter how you meet them nor does it matter who you meet; you’ll meet people who will introduce you to new people who will introduce you to your next girlfriend.

All these should help you get a girlfriend.

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