Is she playing hard to get or not interested?
Well, we’ve all been there. You meet a girl and you can’t tell if she actually likes you because of all the mixed signals she’s sending.
That can drive you nuts!
Well if you want to stay sane in this game, and know what to do when a woman is playing hard to get or not interested, keep reading.
There are some things you can do to know what a woman feels for you so you don’t have to be frustrated for long. But first, you’ll have to know why girls make you confused and do such confusing things like playing hard to get.
Why women play hard to get
And if you look at it from their point of view, you’ll know that they have to protect themselves. No. Not from wild animals. But from what other people may think about them — especially their friends and close peers.
They don’t want anything going around that they’re easy to get. It becomes social suicide for a woman when her “reputation” suffers. You know how important that is for all women to be on good terms with their friends.
Another thing they’re trying to protect is their emotions. They fear getting hurt like what happened with a previous guy she went along with. If they’re not sure whether you’re good for them or not, they’ll pretty much hold off on giving you concrete signs of attraction.
And something else you have to consider:
She wants to lead you on and chase her as a sort of test to see if you’re a man who can handle her. She wants to know if you can play her games and win her in the end.
So, don’t go crazy, all right?
She could be interested
On the bright side, if you can’t clearly tell if she’s interested in you or not, that means you’re almost there.
Playing hard to get could be her way of getting your attention. She wants you to want her but she wants to be sure you are worthy of her affection.
If she’s showing you some signs of interest but pulls back at the last minute, you gotta make it easy for her to decide and get attracted to you all the way.
Signs she’s playing hard to get
So, to know if she’s playing hard to get… you need to look at her actions–or better yet get a thermometer and get her temperature. You’ll know she’s playing when she’s hot one day and cold the next.
If she enjoys a conversation with you one day and out of nowhere she ignores you and doesn’t even greet you the next day. Or she responds to your teasing, laughs at your jokes and, well, interacts with you then completely flips to a statue the next time. This could be a red flag to think twice about her.
On the other hand, if she’s able to tickle your interest but simply vanishes, she wants you to think about her for as long as possible.
She will give you hints that she’s into you but won’t be bold enough to make any first moves.
Are you already thinking about her day and night? Well, she won’t leave things to chance until she’s completely sure.
If you ask something about her, there’s a chance she’ll leave you dry. She will give you some bits of information but leave you in the dark about the rest.
What to do when she’s playing hard to get
That will make most men go out of their minds and run for the hills. But not you, since you already know what and why she’s doing this. You won’t chase her when she ignores you and repeats the pattern.
Instead, you’ll call her games and take advantage of the times when she’s responding well to your approaches. You can also do what she does and ignore her when she ignores you, but still be cool with it.
Then later on, have a serious talk with her and tell her you know what’s going on. Tell her you understand what she’s going through, not in a needy and desperate way, but in a more confident, manly way.
You could also pull back a bit. Take this time to know where you stand.
Take a closer look at what she does when she is with you. Even if she wants to hide her interest, her body language will reveal more than what she’d like to.
If you still can’t figure her out, you have to choose whether you want this woman or not. In the meantime, go out there and meet more women.
It can be hard to understand what’s happening when you’re too invested in the situation. Often it can cloud your judgment and make it difficult to see things objectively. And this can lead to bias and irrational decisions. It’s better to take a step back and cool yourself emotionally to get clear on what’s really happening.
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