Texting a girl is one of those skills that you need to get good at if you’re getting digits… but not getting dates. Why?
Because it bridges the gap between your first meeting and a chance to meet for a second time.
And if that bridge is shaky and wobbly… you’ll likely to fall off than reach the other side.
Now, texting has its advantage over calling girls on her phone.
Some girls don’t answer their phones (or listen to their messages) for some obvious reasons but most of them, if not all, will surely read your text messages.
And it’s what in those text messages that determine if she’ll ignore your text message or send you a reply.
But not only that… getting a response from here also depends on how well you did when you first met her.
How do you think you did? Will she remember you? How will she remember you?
You’re likely to be the only one who can answer that as well as how good you are attracting women.
Unless you’re already a badass at getting girls, you’re probably not satisfied with your results.
Her first impression of you plays a big part whether you’ll get ignored or get noticed.
And if she gave her number to a lot of guys that day, you have a lot of competition.
That’s even more reason for you to stand out.
Your initial interaction with her matter. And if you think you’re not doing great in those areas I’d start there.
How Long Before You Text Her
If you want to be remembered…
And if you don’t want the good emotions you’ve brought her to dissipate like snow on a hot day, a few hours after meeting her works well in your favor.
You don’t need fancy message or anything that requires a lot of thought, either.
A simple and casual text telling her that… it was nice meeting her with your name will do.
This opens the line for future texting with her.
On the other hand, texting after a week or even several days later after you first met her makes it a bit harder for her to remember you (especially if she has a very active social life).
She’ll also be looking for congruency.
She’ll be looking for the same kind of energy or vibe in your text when you first met.
If you can avoid being awkward and follow the guidelines below, you’ll be alright.
Guidelines on Texting a Girl
In general, your text messages to her should be light, positive, fun, and non-threatening.
Read your messages to her twice before you hit send. If you’re in doubt, don’t send it or rewrite it.
You want your messages to have the effect of making her want to read and wait for your next text messages.
Have it in mind every time you text her.
You can text her your next message the following day or a few days later. Doesn’t really matter as long as you don’t wait too long for you next message.
Always Have a Goal in Mind
What do you want to do?
Well, most of the time (and what your first thought should be) is to get her out.
Don’t beat around the bush.
Plan for a second meet with her so you can build some genuine bonding and connection in-person.
That’s what your phone is for.
Not for getting to know her with text conversations for weeks and weeks without meeting in-person.
It’s a HUGE mistake most guys make.
Eventually it will lead to the girl getting bored or the guy saying something stupid.
What Mistake You Should Avoid
Avoid asking too many questions which lead to boring answers.
Worse is asking predictable questions that make you seem needy.
And replying with long winding text after just a few seconds of getting her text.
Then when she doesn’t reply or ignore your messages… sending a barrage of text hoping it will get her attention.
I know it can be tempting like a pizza just out of the oven. But don’t do it. Resist it at all costs!
One other thing, avoid meaningless texts which contribute no value to the interaction.
Remember, other guys are probably texting her. Sending her a banal text message will just make you one with the background noise. Easily forgettable.
Let’s get back to…
How to Get Her Out and Meet You
Setting up a meet with her should only take you just a few text.
You need a first text message that’s strong enough to make her STOP whatever she’s doing and immediately send you a reply.
It should grab her attention, excite her, and make her forget every other guy texting her.
Send her something you talked about or something you remembered during your first meet.
Better yet, use a callback humor. Or you just banter with her. Then build some rapport.
Show you understand her.
Pump her with so much good emotions she’ll jump at the next chance to see you again.
Then hint on a meet. And plan your date. That’s it.
You’ll find more details here with some samples.
Here’s some additional…
Tips on How to Text Girls
Again… you should vary the frequency of your replies.
Don’t be too eager or anxious to text her back as if you’re waiting for her messages and you have nothing better else to do with your life.
This sends her the wrong signal.
Also… keep it short and concise with some humor and wit (with the right emoticons).
Those work better than long winded text conversations that seem to go nowhere.
And don’t be too predictable. Make her wonder why you haven’t texted her back.
Don’t be funny all the time.
And always keep your goal in mind. Always keep your eye on the ball.
If she’s not responding. Leave it. And try again after a few weeks.
There’s really nothing else you can do. Well, you can call her if the situation demands it but only in rare cases (use your judgment).
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