Here’s a quick story:
Not that long ago, a guy was in a bar with his friends and, over the course of the night, their group somehow merged with another group of friends who he’d never met before.
Amongst this group, there were a couple of girls. They were very attractive and seemed really nice.
Anyway, our guy was talking to one of them.
At first, she was sort of hesitant to get into a fun, emotional conversation with him but he managed to draw her in using a quick ‘psychological test’. He told her it was quite revealing.
She seemed to enjoy it a lot since she opened up a fair amount.
But, she wasn’t totally hooked. There was a bit of attraction but it wasn’t quite there. (Read: Signs She Is Interested)
So our guy did something that seemed to ignite something in her.
Here’s what he did:
When they were laughing at something they both found funny he said, “You know, you’re great. We could be the next Bonnie and Clyde if you were my usual type.”
It was like a spark went off inside her and set her afire with passion.
She said, “Yeah, definitely. So what’s your type?” And she started playing with her hair while locking eye contact with him as she started qualifying herself to him.
So what happened there?
He challenged her!
At the start of the interaction, she thought our guy liked her (he did) and that the deal was already in the bag.
Now, that wasn’t exciting to her.
It was boring.
Only after our guy said she wasn’t his type is when he got her hooked.
So when you think a girl is a bit into you but not as much as you’d like, challenge her and see what happens.
You see, women liked being challenged.
In other words, women are attracted to men who challenge them.
I’ll give you three reasons!
Here’s the first:
Because women want men they must work for.
I’m sure even you don’t want something (or someone) easy to get, right?
You won’t value it.
But… the more you work hard to get something, the more you will value that something.
This same principle applies to relationships and women.
And here’s more:
Wanting something we can’t have is a built-in behavior that happens at the subconscious level.
In other words, human nature!
So if you always seem to be available to anyone, guess what?
The girl will believe she can easily reach out and grab whatever she wants out of you.
And here’s the third:
Women are excited by a man of value.
When you challenge women, you automatically get perceived as having equal (or higher) value.
On the other hand, if a man supplicates, always complies, and does whatever she asks, how do you think a woman will see this man?
If you aren’t challenging her, then you are basically demonstrating through your actions that you believe she is of higher value.
And what happens then?
She loses interest and moves on, or worse. she will lose all respect for you as a man.
All these points to one thing:
Being a challenge can increase your success with attracting women.
It is one of the most powerful things you can do to make yourself stand out and get inside her mind because you are different from most guys.
And you’ll probably get more girls, too.
Because most guys are ‘easy’. And most hot girls are aware they can get a man anytime they want.
So how do you start being a challenge?
Here’s the basic:
Sometimes, simply not being easy can be enough for women to chase you!
But if you want to create towering attraction… be a challenge to women.
Don’t show too much interest (just the right amount will do). And make it hard to tell if you like her or not.
Don’t be always available to hang out.
Don’t linger and avoid lame questions like, “What kind of guys do you like?” or “Am I your type?”
Make her work a little and make her qualify herself to you with something like, “What makes you interesting/different than other girls?”
Don’t be just another guy and lose what could have been your only chance with a girl.
Be a challenge from the start and this will easily turn the tables and have her pursuing you.
This sets the “frame” that you ARE the selector!
Here’s a list of some attract women books where you can learn more about being a challenge to attract women.
I’ll add more on the next update.
Still here? You are awesome!
Since You Made It This Far…
This tells me that you’re serious about improving your situation with that lovely girl that’s been running laps in your head.
So I saved most of the advanced stuff — used by the best seducers — for serious guys like you. It’s a series of tips and secrets you can use almost immediately.
I’ll wait for you inside.
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