Know a girl who’s sending you mixed signals?
One day she’s warm–she flirts, she laughs and responds well, and acts like she’s really interested.
Everything seems to be going well with this girl; you feel like you have a chance with her, and it seems like you’re both enjoying each other.
It’s fun to be with her and she’s easy to get along with. Then…
BOOM… somebody destroys your world.
The next day she’s the queen of ice.
She’s cold and aloof.
She doesn’t seem to be interested in you anymore; she ignores you, she treats you like air, she doesn’t flirt anymore, she seems to be avoiding you.
She won’t even properly respond to your call.
She flakes. And every little thing seems to happen that gets in the way of her getting together with you–her friend’s in town, her cat is sick, she has to get up early.
You don’t even recognize this girl anymore. Who’s this girl who replaced that warm and fun-to-be-with girl you used to know?
Then before you get the chance to give up and forget her, she’s warm and fuzzy all over again.
Now tell me who wouldn’t get confused with girls sending mixed signals.
Is it any wonder some guys go nuts.
Does she likes you or not?
How can you be sure if she’s really interested when she doesn’t make her feelings clear.
Why does a girl make it complicated; if she like you, what’s with all the games?
Why do women give mixed signals?
Did I do something wrong, what the hell happened?
I’ll tell you what, there are a couple of reasons, and maybe you did something wrong.
Maybe you were indecisive or too slow or you missed your chance, your window of opportunity, or you keep waiting for the “right” moment.
Now she’s disappointed.
She’s thinking: “Maybe he didn’t really like me, what’s he waiting for?”
And now she doesn’t really know if you like her or not, so she’ll pull back a little and see how you act.
This is what often happens: she’ll test you.
A girl will not be the aggressor in this game. She’ll send probing signals, wait and see if you’ll bite. She won’t put herself out there in the open where she’ll be an easy target.
She’s at that stage where she’s still trying to figure you out. She’s still testing the waters. She doesn’t want to put herself too far out there and get rejected, no matter how small the chance of rejection is… because that would be too devastating for her.
She doesn’t want to risk it.
Also, she wants to know if you’re really as confident as you seem you are.
She wants to know if you’ll continue the pursuit, if you really like her, if you’ll just give up just like that, or if you’re really serious with her.
Then there’s the natural flirt.
She’s the girl who likes the attention men gives her. She’s got a lot of guys circling around her, her adoring fans.
She enjoys the fact that she can get any man she wants. She likes the validation, the positive reaction which assures that she’s attractive, and the fun of flirting; she enjoys it and assumes you do, too.
She’s there to flirt and enjoy the game.
She’s almost a pro at making guys swoon over her, making them feel like she likes them. She does things that make it seem like she’s approachable, almost interested even when she’s not.
She wants to keep you around, she doesn’t easily anger, almost unaffected.
Then there’s the girl who doesn’t really know what she wants — The crazy girl.
She can’t decide whether she likes you or not. She’s young and doesn’t have much experience with guys and relationships in general.
She keeps changing her mind.
She’s hot and cold; press the right button and she gets warm; press the wrong one and she cools down. She can easily agree, then change her mind just as easily. She just can’t make up her mind.
Now that you know why you get mixed signals, now what?
How do you make things clear?
What do you do when you get mixed signals from a girl?
Well, you can go along with her and play this never-ending game if you’re dealing with a natural flirt. That is one of your options, not the only one, of course.
Figure out what type of girl you’re dealing with, then go from there.
Even if she’s not the flirty girl…
The important thing is to
move things forward.
You’ll know what type of girl is sending you mixed signals; you’ll know if she’s just testing you, or if she’s playing with you, or just plain confused about her own feelings.
So… confidently move things forward.
Make your intentions clear.
See if she goes with you. Get her to comply, ask her out, go for the kiss, sex, or relationship.
Once you take decisive actions, she’ll have to decide to go along or not.
If she’s testing and she’s really interested, she’ll be glad you did. If she’s not interested, she’ll make it known to you clearly.
If she’s the flirt, she’ll deflect and will always have a reason to slip away. Be direct with her. Get a solid answer. If you can’t get any, or she’s slippery as an eel, move on or play on.
Take charge of the situation.
Don’t think always about the mixed signals she’s giving you. Don’t wait for the “perfect moment” to make your move.
Go for it.
A guy who knows what he’s doing with women knows women find him sexually attractive.
Of course, you should know which stage of the attraction precess you’re in so you’ll know exactly the right actions to take.
Once you do, it becomes easy, easy, easy.