What are the mistakes that could be keeping you single?
What’s holding you back from having a great relationship with a girl?
Do you keep wondering why you’re spending Christmas, New Year, Valentine’s, and your birthday single?
You’re still single, but you can’t put your finger on why.
Here are some of the things that keep you single, knowingly, or unknowingly.
Not Even Trying
It can feel like a hassle meeting new people. Asking your friends if they know anyone is out of the question.
But you are not going to find a girl locked away in your dungeon.
Put some effort into getting yourself out there and playing the game.
You’re single, and you’re not happy about it.
It sucks being lonely and insecure.
Complaining about it, even to yourself, doesn’t do you any good.
And it shows.
When you meet a girl, it becomes apparent that you’re unhappy.
Find ways to be happy with yourself, even if you’re single.
Being single has its benefits. It’s a time when you can focus on yourself, making yourself grow, and breakthrough your walls.
Trying Too Hard
This attempt comes from a place of need, a place of lack, and a woman will sense where you’re coming from. Doing this will have the opposite effect of what you want.
Even if you are nervous, you don’t need to try to hide your nervousness by talking a lot. You can be honest and open about it than trying to appear more confident.
Making Her Feel Unreachable
She might be the most beautiful girl you’ve ever met, but you don’t put her up on a pedestal to worship.
Why would you put her out of your league? Be confident in your value and worth.
Don’t bring yourself down.
Avoid thinking she’s better than you.
Women want a man who believes himself worthy of a good woman.
Assuming the Worst
If you think that things are not going to work out, you increase the likelihood that it is not going to work out.
The more you have this fear, the more you create a situation where that thing you fear is likely to happen.
If you’re worried a girl won’t like you or lose interest, you may needlessly act desperate and insecure. It won’t feel that good to be around you. Eventually, your fear comes true.
When you have something cool going on with your life, let it come to the conversation naturally.
You can impress her without seeming like a show-off. How?
Instead of bragging about your hobby, or telling her about something you’re proud of out of nowhere while having an expectant look on your face, it is better if you surprise her when you get the chance to invite her over.
Doing this will make her wonder what else you have up your sleeves.
Too Focused on Her
Like when you’re in a social setting, and you ignore everyone else except for the girl you’re with, you forget other people, you show you don’t know your way around people.
Instead of showing your social value and putting yourself in the best possible light, you hover over your date, closely sticking to her side.
When you become too focused on a girl, you forget she has a life of her own, and that you should have a life of your own. It becomes a preview of what’s about to come.
It is the same as coming in too strong too soon. Your enthusiasm could come across as desperate, needy, or clingy.
Take it slow with someone new. There’s no need to rush.
Introduce her to people you know and allow her to have a conversation with others while you say hello to everyone you know.
Not Moving On
Maybe you were in a relationship before, but you keep holding on to the possibility of getting back with your ex.
Why not give someone else a shot. There’s a reason things ended.
Expecting Too Much
It’s a fantasy that someone is going to fulfill everything you’re looking for in a girl.
It’s rare to find immediate chemistry with someone.
Having criteria is normal, as long as they’re valid and not too ridiculous.
It’s better to let go of unrealistic expectations about finding a girlfriend.
Instead of assessing every woman you meet for the qualities you want, try to connect with her as a person.
Other Mistakes That Can Keep You Single
- Hiding your interest out of fear of rejection
- Discounting someone because she doesn’t tick off all your boxes
- Ending things as soon as something goes wrong
- You’re not trying to look your best
Worrying about being alone forever gets you nowhere.
Believe it or not, you won’t be single forever.
Being perpetually single, the thought of entering a relationship can be scary. There’s the fear of feeling that things won’t work out.
But you never know for sure until you commit.
Don’t assume nothing will work out for you or that no one will like you as you are.
If you want to find someone to share passionate moments with, don’t continue living the same way and hope for a lucky encounter with a pretty girl.
Finding a great relationship is not just about putting yourself out there it; is more about being ready for that relationship.
Look at the choices that are helping you and the ones that are hurting you.
Continuing to keep your guard up or find faults in every girl you meet will only let you miss out on potential great relationships.
Do you know what the worst mistake that’s keeping you single is? It is not learning about attracting women.
Be ready to find someone. Connect. And get to know more about the girl.