How to Be More Interesting When Talking with Women

Are you bad at talking to women?

When you talk to a woman, does she find you interesting?

Do you excite her curiosity, arouse a feeling of interest, or attract her attention?

Or does she find you as interesting as a wet tax form on a rainy day?

Well, let me guess . . .

Since you’re reading this with rapt attention, it could only mean one thing.

You are aware you could use some help in being less boring and being a little more interesting in conversations, particularly with the fair ladies.

You’re not alone.

Did you know that a significant number of men struggle with conversations with women?

That is why being interesting when you talk to women gives you such an advantage over other men.

Let’s get to it!

Flip it

Have you ever noticed that almost every other guy wants to immediately impress the girls they find attractive? He thinks of clever words to say and brags about his parents’ achievements.

But what if . . . to become someone she enjoys talking to, someone she wants to keep talking to . . . you flip the focus outward?

As opposed to focusing on yourself and talking endlessly about yourself, your achievements, and your opinions, which can leave her feeling unheard, you show interest in her.

Instead of dominating the conversation, you share the floor, giving her space and encouraging her to share her thoughts while you listen attentively.

Rather than trying to impress a woman to draw her attention to yourself, you develop a healthy curiosity about what makes her unique.

Use this potent force

You see, curiosity, if used well, is a potent force in any conversation.

When you’re talking to a woman and you show you’re genuinely curious about her story, it signals that you see something more in her . . . that you don’t meet someone like her often . . . that you want to hear what she has to say.

How do you think that would make her feel?

You can bet it would make her feel good. Real good.

And guess what?

People tend to be drawn towards those who make them feel good. We humans naturally seek positive connections because we are social beings.

Even more crucially, when you show you care, she becomes comfortable with you. And then she begins to trust you.

Then, when you give her the space to be herself, she feels emotional safety. Why? Because when a woman feels emotional safety, she tends to share more of her authentic self.

The next thing you know she’s sharing more of herself. She starts telling you things she doesn’t usually tell others. Things that she enjoys talking about — like her fondness for men with deep resonant voices — all the while thinking how interesting of a guy you seem to be.

Then… she becomes infected. Why?

Because genuine curiosity can be contagious, and often, the attitude you put into your relationships, reflects back to you. You get what you give. So she becomes curious herself. She starts to reciprocate your interest. She becomes interested in knowing little details about your love of old stamps.

Now things get more exciting. You now have mutual interest.

Of course, you express your thoughts and share old stamp stories that touch her heart. And you get into this flow of exchanges where nothing else in the world matters.

You’re way past the small talk stage.

You are equally engaged in learning about each other and understanding each other. You explore conversation threads that genuinely resonate with both of you, allowing you to grow from the exchange.

To your utter delight, you start to discover shared experiences, mutual interests, and similar views that draw you closer and closer together, leading to an emotional connection and unmistakable spark.

A sense of connection forms

Emotional connection is the groundwork you’ll need if you want to have a deeper relationship with a woman. An emotional bond between you and her makes the conversation feel more intimate.

It is what transforms ordinary conversation into a meaningful one.

At the end of the day, it’s how deep of a connection you establish with a woman that makes conversations — and you — truly interesting. Why? Because this emotional resonance she feels can linger long after the conversation ends. She’ll likely recall the details of these moments with you.

Remember: the way you make her feel matters more than what you actually talk about.

Make her feel interesting and you become interesting to her.

Gradually, you start making a deep impression. And she’ll probably remember you for the rest of her life. She’ll tell stories about you to her closest friends. And unconsciously compare you to other guys she meets from then on. You attain legendary status in her heart, the envy of countless men.

All because you cared to listen with interest, with a kind of attention that makes her feel special

That’s how powerful genuine interest and curiosity can be . . . if you know how to use it well. So be sure to approach each conversation with a sense of curiosity. Treat each exchange as an opportunity to discover.

This is what it all boils down to…

Being an engaging conversationalist comes down to being genuinely interested, rather than trying to impress others.

In short, if you want to be more interesting in conversations with a girl, you first have to be interested in knowing her as a unique person. And I mean showing genuine interest, not faked interest.

Listen. Not every girl you talk to will connect with you. Conversations may stall with most of the women you talk to. And you don’t have to blame yourself every time that happens. Not every conversation will lead to a connection. That’s just the way things usually go.

What I’m saying is if you’re not that interested in getting to know her, gracefully exit the conversation, before both of you get tired and bored. Being insincere in your conversations with women will only backfire.

Therefore, don’t force things to happen. Don’t fall into the trap of trying too hard to impress a woman during conversations. You don’t have to prove that you are interesting to anyone. Ever.

As I said, you will impress a woman more if you take the time to show sincere interest, ask interesting and thoughtful questions, and listen actively rather than trying to “perform” a solo act.

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”
― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends & Influence People

Indeed, genuine interest makes you interesting. So be curious. Be interested in the life you live, the people you meet, and the world around you.

So, instead of trying to impress others or draw attention to yourself, cultivate genuine interest and become deeply fascinated by the people that surround you. Why? Because being interested in others is what makes a person most likable, fascinating, and memorable.

Thank you for reading!

P.S. Of course, there are situations where you can strategically use disinterest. But, you must be socially calibrated enough to use disinterest to get the result you want.

P.P.S. You’ll be more interesting to women if you have interesting things to say. If you don’t have interesting things to say or don’t know what to say . . . read how to become more interesting.

P.P.P.S. Flirting is a skill you use from hello all the way to the date.

If you are having trouble flirting with women and not sure what to say then The F Formula is a MUST-read

Key Takeaways

One of the best ways to captivate a woman is by showing genuine interest in her.

Instead of trying to impress a woman with your achievements or opinions, focus on showing genuine curiosity about her.

With genuine interest, you can turn any dull conversation into an engaging, enjoyable, and memorable encounter.

When you are genuinely interested in a girl, she becomes interested in you. She will likely reciprocate leading to a deeper connection.

When a woman feels that you care and are interested, it fosters emotional safety, encouraging her to open up and share more about herself.

The way you make her feel will have a lasting impact; she will remember you based on the positive feelings and connections established during your conversations.

It’s essential to be genuinely interested, not just feigning curiosity as a strategy. Authentic engagement makes conversations enjoyable and memorable.