You shouldn’t!
Sure. Walking up to a girl and starting a conversation with her can be very uncomfortable, daunting, even scary.
Just the thought of it can trigger flight or fight response if you haven’t done it before.
But once you’ve done it enough, you’ll be like a fish in the sea.
Anyway…
Why is approaching women one of the biggest fears most guys have when it comes to interacting with women?
Rejection is a normal part of approaching and attracting women, so the earlier you know how to deal with it, the easier it will get for you to overcome the fear rejection.
You can deal with rejection in a number of ways. Use the one that works for you best.
But the sooner you recover from being devastated, the better your chances are of meeting and approaching more women. Whether it’s your first or your thousandth rejection, learning how to deal with it every time it comes, will save you the trouble of getting stuck in a downward spiral.
There’s some things that you should never do, though, when you just got rejected by a woman you’ve just approach. And that is to never show that you’re affected in front of her either by throwing a fit or getting angry at her for being a bitch.
If there’s nothing you can do about the situation, better leave it alone while there’s still a chance to recover quickly and move on. Don’t let things affect you emotionally so you don’t carry it to your next approach.
If you can, immediately find a new girl to talk to so you don’t linger in the moment you got rejected. When you immediately move on, the effect of the rejection will almost be non-existent.
Doesn’t even matter who you talk to next as long as you don’t remember being rejected. And you don’t mope around and think about what you did wrong or why you got rejected. You can do that later on when you get the time to reflect back on your actions calmly.
You can look at the bright side, too.
Since you got rejected you don’t have to waste your time with a girl who you’re not compatible with. And you can spend your time wisely trying to attract a woman who’ll show you some interests.
Everyone goes through rejection, even those guys who have been at the game for years. They know how to deal with it and move on.
Focus on what you’ll do next instead of wallowing on your current disappointment. This will keep you to look forward instead of looking behind and thinking what ifs.
Most guys who are not used to regularly approaching and meeting women, and who are just starting out on the road to attracting women experience approach anxiety.
It’s the first hurdle you have to overcome to get good at attracting women.
It stops you from starting a conversation. It gives you trouble every time you want to meet a beautiful woman. And slows you down when you give in to approach anxiety.
If you don’t conquer your approach anxiety, you’ll never get anywhere with meeting women. And that’s why it’s important that you know how to overcome it, quickly.
You’ll know you have approach anxiety when you feel nervous, your breath becomes shallow, you get sick in your stomach and you convince yourself not to approach or do anything.
It’s when you see a girl you want to meet, and then you start doubting yourself as you feel tense and anxious and scared something horrible will happen to you if you go and talk to her.
If you didn’t approach and just stayed where you are, looking at her direction, and a few seconds has passed… your approach anxiety has the better of you.
When you’re simply too scared to make a move, your confidence will suffer and your approach anxiety will become worse. And the impact on your social life will be bad, really bad.
So, if you want to overcome approach anxiety, there are a few simple things you can do.
You can better understand why it happens and lessen its effect on you when you want to meet women.
Most of the time, you get nervous since you’re making it look like she’s too important or too great. Even if she is beautiful, you’ll never really know her unless you try talking to her.
And you think that way because you’re not confident enough with women and when your self-esteem is on the floor.
Another reason approach anxiety kicks in is because you fear you’ll be rejected by this girl in front of her friends and everyone watching. Although it’s possible, it’s highly unlikely. No one really cares about what you’re doing or what happens to you.
So when you overcome this fear of rejection, you’ll be halfway to overcoming your approach anxiety.
Another thing that contributes to approach anxiety is the lack of understand of how attraction works hence you’ll have no idea what to do or what to say even after you’ve successfully approached the girl.
When you’ve taken care of those, you can prepare yourself mentally and physically so you’ll have a better chance at starting a conversation and continuing the interaction and then decide what to do after that.
You’ll have the confidence and control of a natural at meeting women. And you can move things to sex or a relationship with the woman you chose, stress-free and with great results.
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