Being social is at the core of meeting and attracting women.
It comes first if you want to be anywhere near good with women. And most of the skills you’ll need, you’ll learn by being more social.
Humans are social animals.
It doesn’t matter if you’re an introvert or shy, you won’t be able to live a fulfilling and happy life without interacting with other people. In fact, you’ll live a short life according to some research studies.
But don’t feel down. You can train yourself to be social anytime. All you have to do is break out of your comfort zone. It’s not easy but you’ll have to go through it if you want to have a social life.
You can start by not referring to yourself as shy, introvert, or anti-social. It will only reinforce your belief that you’re incapable of being social. Instead, believe that you can be social with other people.
And don’t think about what would go wrong if you interact with other people. It will only make you nervous and back out of the whole thing. Don’t make it hard for yourself by thinking about negative things.
Most of your worries won’t materialize anyway.
People are busy with their own life and even if you make a mistake or say something you think will make you look bad, most of the time they won’t notice. And even if they do notice, they won’t really care about it.
It doesn’t take a genius to realize that you need to be social on a regular basis if you want to be comfortable around other people. You should go out, have fun with your friends on your free time.
Make friends on your school and at work. Invite them to do things with you. Accept to go with them if they invite you. And meet their friends, and the friends of their friends.
That’s how you expand
your social network.
To make it easier, show interest in them.
Listen to what they’re saying as if it’s the most interesting thing in the world. Immerse yourself fully in the conversation. Look them in the eye, nod your head, and ask follow up questions.
If you’re on a social occasion, be open to meeting other people. Have an open body language. Don’t cross your arms, smile when people look at you, and be friendly with everyone.
If you’ve got nothing to do, call up your old friends and catch up with what’s happening to them. Invite them to go out and hang out sometime. Just keeping the communication open with them will open new windows of opportunities for you to be more social.
Don’t hold back. Don’t be shy. And don’t be discouraged.
The planet has billions of people living in it, even if some people don’t want to be social with you, there are way more people who will. That’s how you become more social.