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Do You Fear Approaching Women, Too?

do you fear approaching women

You shouldn’t!

Sure. Walking up to a girl and starting a conversation with her can be very uncomfortable, daunting, even scary.

Just the thought of it can trigger flight or fight response if you haven’t done it before.

But once you’ve done it enough, you’ll be like a fish in the sea.

Anyway…

Why is approaching women one of the biggest fears most guys have when it comes to interacting with women?

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How to Overcome Approach Anxiety

Most guys who are not used to regularly approaching and meeting women, and who are just starting out on the road to attracting women experience approach anxiety.

It’s the first hurdle you have to overcome to get good at attracting women.

It stops you from starting a conversation. It gives you trouble every time you want to meet a beautiful woman.  And slows you down when you give in to approach anxiety.

If you don’t conquer your approach anxiety, you’ll never get anywhere with meeting women. And that’s why it’s important that you know how to overcome it, quickly.

You’ll know you have approach anxiety when you feel nervous, your breath becomes shallow, you get sick in your stomach and you convince yourself not to approach or do anything.

It’s when you see a girl you want to meet, and then you start doubting yourself as you feel tense and anxious and scared something horrible will happen to you if you go and talk to her.

If you didn’t approach and just stayed where you are, looking at her direction, and a few seconds has passed… your approach anxiety has the better of you.

When you’re simply too scared to make a move, your confidence will suffer and your approach anxiety will become worse. And the impact on your social life will be bad, really bad.

So, if you want to overcome approach anxiety, there are a few simple things you can do.

You can better understand why it happens and lessen its effect on you when you want to meet women.

Most of the time, you get nervous since you’re making it look like she’s too important or too great. Even if she is beautiful, you’ll never really know her unless you try talking to her.

And you think that way because you’re not confident enough with women and when your self-esteem is on the floor.

Another reason approach anxiety kicks in is because you fear you’ll be rejected by this girl in front of her friends and everyone watching. Although it’s possible, it’s highly unlikely. No one really cares about what you’re doing or what happens to you.

So when you overcome this fear of rejection, you’ll be halfway to overcoming your approach anxiety.

Another thing that contributes to approach anxiety is the lack of understand of how attraction works hence you’ll have no idea what to do or what to say even after you’ve successfully approached the girl.

When you’ve taken care of those, you can prepare yourself mentally and physically so you’ll have a better chance at starting a conversation and continuing the interaction and then decide what to do after that.

You’ll have the confidence and control of a natural at meeting women. And you can move things to sex or a relationship with the woman you chose, stress-free and with great results.

How to Overcome Fear of Rejection

It’s natural to feel a fear if you think you’ll be getting rejected. But you need to overcome this fear of rejection if you want to be able to approach and attract women.

When you think about it, this fear of rejection you’re feeling is only in your mind. It hasn’t happen yet. And you’ll never know whether she’ll reject your approach or be ecstatic that you did if you don’t overcome this fear.

Of course, rejection is part of the “game”. It wouldn’t be fun if everything goes well every time you try to open a girl and start a conversation.

But most of the time, it goes well. That’s because most women are social and they like being approached by great guys who know what they’re doing.

That’s right, if you’re a great guy and you know what you’re doing when you meet and attract girls, you’ll minimize your chances of getting rejected.

But this is not about that, this is about overcoming your fear of rejection. And there’s a couple of things you can do.

The first is to move forward in spite of that fear you’re currently feeling. It’s the most effective way and it’s the fastest and surest way to go.

If you understand that there’s always a chance of rejection no matter what you do, that rejection won’t matter. It will only serve as fuel for future approaches and a step in your ladder for gaining experience.

If you face rejection head on, it’s almost certain nothing can stop you from getting to know that girl.

Another way to overcome this fear is using a punishment and reward.

You can reward yourself every time you overcome this fear and meet the girl. And you can set a penalty if you don’t do it and you succumb to this fear of rejection.

If you’re with someone — a buddy or your wing — you can ask him to slap you hard if you didn’t do anything while you’re feeling this fear.

Overcoming the fear of rejection from approaching and meeting women is essential if you want to be able to attract any woman you want.

It doesn’t matter if you do it slowly or quickly. What matters is your overcome it and you continue to grow.

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