Category: Mindset & Inner Game

How to Attract Women With Consistency

how to attract women with consistency

Most people don’t have control of their own mental and emotional state.

Instead, they let what’s around them to affect and control their own emotions.

When the weather is clear and sunny, they’re out and about jumping like wild rabbits, but when the whole sky is dark and cloudy. they’re so gloomy it’s like the whole sky’s about to drop down and crash into them.

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How to Avoid Looking Desperate

There’s nothing that makes a guy more creepy and surrounds himself with dark clouds of miasma than looking and acting desperate.

If you look desperate and don’t want to make every woman in the nearby vicinity move away from you in horror…

… you have to avoid looking so desperate all the time. And it’s simple and easy to do, too. Just apply yourself to make some changes and you’ll soon see brighter days.

You know what desperation can do to you, right?

It makes you do things you’ll regret. And, generally, makes you unattractive to women.

You see, if you’re desperate, you’ll be trying too hard to get her to like you. And you many even lie about some things to impress her. And that’s not how it’s done if you want to attract women.

That won’t end good for you. It doesn’t help. Not at all.

So, what do you need to do then to avoid looking so desperate? Well, you gotta focus on the one that’s basically causing you all this desperation.

It’s your mindset. It affects everything you do and what everyone thinks of you.

That’s why you gotta change your way of thinking. It all starts there, inside your mind. That’s why PUA’s call it “Inner Game”.

And there’s an inner game concept called the abundance mentality.

If you adopt this mindset of having abundance, you’ll never look desperate again. Ever.

What does it mean to have abundance? That’s simple. You just believe in yourself that there are an abundance of everything in your life.

Women are everywhere. If one girl doesn’t like you, you move on. It’s that easy.

Since there’s another girl out there waiting to talk to you, why would you feel desperate about someone who won’t give you a second of her time? You won’t.

You see, if you know how to attract women and you can use your body language right, the experience will keep rolling in and, you’ll experience true abundance.

You’ll eliminate all feelings of desperation in your life. Guaranteed!

Simple Cures for Shyness

If you’re shy, the thought of approaching a girl you don’t know so you can talk to her and make her like you, might have never crossed your mind.

You’re thinking you can’t because you’ll only embarrass yourself in front of her. Am I right?

Most of the time, shyness gets in the way of expressing yourself.

You already know you’re a great guy deep within, but being shy restricts your movements from fully letting yourself loose.

And if you’re like that, you’ll miss a lot of things in life. You won’t be able to form new relationships easily, finding a job will become difficult, and you’ll have a tough time dealing with most people.

What that means is, if you don’t cure your shyness, it will impede your social, professional and personal life. You won’t be able to fully enjoy yourself.

If you don’t come out of your shell, you won’t hear the music and feel the warmth of the sun.

And yes, you don’t have to stay that way, if you choose to cure yourself of shyness. It doesn’t happen overnight, but if you take it a step at a time, you’ll be different and feel different when your shyness is but a thin veil blocking your path.

You have a couple of choices.

If you’re the analytic type, you can take a step back and see what causes your shyness.

Why do you fear interacting with people? When you find the cause, you can make a clear decision to do something about it.

If you don’t like how you look, you can improve your appearance. If you can’t talk well with other people. you can improve your conversation skills. If it’s something that happened in the past, you can try to get over it and move on.

You see, getting over your shyness is just about expanding your comfort zone. Think of your zone as a circle around you. What shyness is doing is holding it back from ever expanding.

It’s easier to mingle with people who you already know but, when it comes to creating new friendships with a new face, that’s gonna be something outside your comfort zone. You’ll may feel a bit uncomfortable and won’t know what to do quite yet.

When you’re on the boundary of your comfort zone, and you have to practice dealing with those kinds of situations to make yourself comfortable.

Meet as many people as you can. If you do, you won’t feel that uncomfortable feeling anymore.

In fact, you’ll feel really good, and meeting people will feel very natural to you. Even pretty girls you’d never think of talking to before, you’ll find easier to get a conversation going with her.

And you’ll be having the time of your life.

Your shyness will become a thing of the past. Your confident will grow even more, and your insecurities and doubts will go up in smoke if you can prove to yourself that you can do it.

Listen: Curing your shyness is about loving yourself and trusting yourself more. If you can be confident and comfortable with yourself, you’ll have a healthy social interactions and you’ll fully enjoy your life.

How to Deal With Rejection

Rejection is a normal part of approaching and attracting women, so the earlier you know how to deal with it, the easier it will get for you to overcome the fear rejection.

You can deal with rejection in a number of ways. Use the one that works for you best.

But the sooner you recover from being devastated, the better your chances are of meeting and approaching more women. Whether it’s your first or your thousandth rejection, learning how to deal with it every time it comes, will save you the trouble of getting stuck in a downward spiral.

There’s some things that you should never do, though, when you just got rejected by a woman you’ve just approach. And that is to never show that you’re affected in front of her either by throwing a fit or getting angry at her for being a bitch.

If there’s nothing you can do about the situation, better leave it alone while there’s still a chance to recover quickly and move on. Don’t let things affect you emotionally so you don’t carry it to your next approach.

If you can, immediately find a new girl to talk to so you don’t linger in the moment you got rejected. When you immediately move on, the effect of the rejection will almost be non-existent.

Doesn’t even matter who you talk to next as long as you don’t remember being rejected. And you don’t mope around and think about what you did wrong or why you got rejected. You can do that later on when you get the time to reflect back on your actions calmly.

You can look at the bright side, too.

Since you got rejected you don’t have to waste your time with a girl who you’re not compatible with. And you can spend your time wisely trying to attract a woman who’ll show you some interests.

Everyone goes through rejection, even those guys who have been at the game for years. They know how to deal with it and move on.

Focus on what you’ll do next instead of wallowing on your current disappointment. This will keep you to look forward instead of looking behind and thinking what ifs.

How to Become More Decisive

One of the most attractive traits women look for in a man is being a leader.

And to lead, you have to become decisive. That means removing all hesitation from your veins like a general commanding an army about to decimate his opponents by making resolute decisions quickly.

You’ll need to be decisive not only to succeed with women, but also to be successful in life. Making decisions is a vital part of living the life you want and getting the woman you want.

If you let others decide for you, you’ll be like a balloon cruising the sky, getting blown away by strong winds to God knows where, with no direction.That may sound like fun, but believe me, it’s not!

With women, she’ll lose all interest in you, and she’ll find a real man, instead.

To make it easy on yourself, being decisive becomes easy if you’re on your territory. If you are in your comfort zone, you can make the decision like it’s second nature compared to when you’re unsure of what to do.

So, when you go out on a date with her, take her somewhere you know. Or better yet, plan things out before you meet her so you can display your leadership skills. Take her into your world where you know the territory.

And there won’t be anything unexpected happening where you become frozen with fear and don’t know what to do. But still be flexible and spontaneous enough so you don’t become boring.

Don’t sweat the small stuff.

Everything doesn’t have to go your way but be sure to let her know if you don’t agree with something. Show her you’re no push-over and stand your ground and what you believe in.

It doesn’t matter if get into an argument, you can always defuse that with some humor. What’s important is that she respects you and sees you as a strong, confident man. Trust yourself more when you make your decision and stick with it.

When you make a mistake, it’s a chance for you to grow if you can learn from them. You don’t always have to think of the outcome that you want if it’s becoming a hindrance on your decisiveness.

And be sure to practice.

The moment you wake up in the morning is the moment you practice being decisive. Decide on what you’re going to do and be open to try new things. You can also get into leadership roles and practice being a leader and an alpha male.

Being decisive will affect your whole life, not just when you want to attract women. It’s powerful enough to change the course of your life, for better or worse. It can be tough sometimes, but those kinds of decisions are the most important ones to make.

Be The Man Every Woman Wants

Let’s get one thing clear: You can’t satisfy every woman out there.

Not everyone will like you and care about you. Some will bite and chew you up like pan cakes while others will spit you out. But don’t get discouraged easily.

It’s all part of the game.

And though you can’t get them all, you can always put your best foot forward and hope for the best, backed with the traits and qualities every woman wants in a man. In that way, you won’t doubt yourself and you’ll have no regrets.

Keeping this in mind will keep you sane while you’re in the wild hunting, attracting women left and right, everywhere you go. And you’ll make it easier on yourself to move on and do better the next time around.

Not like all the other guys who get stuck in the corner, sulking after they got rejected and wonder if they’ll ever find a girlfriend who will comfort them. It doesn’t have to be like that, at all.

You can take control of your dating life, and be the kind of man every woman wants and dreams about. It will not be easy but you’ll get there if you can persist and plow through while you polish some of your rough edges.

But you gotta start now.

Think of how you can improve yourself today, on your own. Though I can give you some suggestions, you should already know some of the things you need to do if you want to become a man woman falls for. (If not, just subscribe below.)

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure this thing out. Just be brutally honest with your assessment of yourself and you’ll see the light shining in your path. Don’t laugh. I’m not joking.

Start with how confident you are with women. Can you make them look your way when you walk and talk? You don’t have to be born with a pretty face to be handsome, it’s all in the choices you make every day whether you get the body of a Greek god or a balloon about to blow up.

To sum it up, it’s about living your life the way a high value attractive man does. Since all women wants a man who can provide, protect, and make them happy. But you already know that, right?

Ways to Get Better with Women

Getting better at attracting women takes time.

There’s no “magic pill” you can take that can instantly transform you into a modern day Casanova or Don Juan. But it’s certainly possible to get better with women quickly, if you dedicate yourself to the art.

It all depends on your pace. How fast or how slow you want to learn doesn’t really matter, unless you’re in a hurry, of course. And you want to get as good as possible to have control of your dating life.

With that said, there’s really only one way to get good with women, and that’s spending time with them, learning about them, interacting to as many as you can handle. In short, you need experience with women. Lots of it.

You need to experience what’s it like to approach, attract, tease, flirt, get rejected, have sex, be in a relationship, break up, get back with your ex or not, and all things in between.

I guess what I’m saying is… you need to know how it feels like to be in all levels of relationship with a girl to be able to get better with women.

Not only that, once you start to learn the things that work for you, you need to use it consistently so you don’t forget and get rusty. Guys who get in a relationship with a woman thinks it’s over and don’t need the skills anymore.

Well, guess what? Unless you’re the only person left in the world, you need to keep interacting with other people. And what you learn to get better with women are useful in every social interaction you make.

So if you want to get better with women, make time. Even if it’s just a weekend every week, go out and meet women. At night, during the day, doesn’t really matter where. What matter is that you’re there trying to get better and better, until you get things under control.

But don’t neglect other areas of your life. Getting better with women doesn’t mean forgetting to eat or sleep or work. If your life sucks right now, get it handled first. Don’t go out to seek validation from other people. It won’t make you feel better in the long run.

This is not a sprint, it’s more like a marathon.

If you want to feel great, then become a better person who has something to offer to every women you meet. Have something going on in your life. Be a real man women can’t help but be attracted to.

How To Be A Pickup Artist

Pickup artists have became famous since “The Game” came out, but you don’t have to be a pickup artist to attract women on your free time.

If you want to pickup girls everyday, go out with guys to pick up girls, and immerse yourself in the different lifestyle of being a player, becoming a pickup artist may not be a bad choice.

You’ll learn a lot on your way to mastering the art of pickup, and you’ll be able to transform yourself into someone confident enough to successfully approach women and be on the spotlight while taking the lead and being the center of attention.

With that said, you gotta start with looking at yourself. You need to develop enough confidence to get started on the road to pickup mastery and get past your shyness and insecurities.

Get past your fears and jump in — it’s the best way to get a good feel of what it’s like before you even go in deeper.

Choose a pickup method that works best for you. There are different methods of picking up beautiful women out there, and you’re the only one who knows yourself best. So find one that you can use effectively that suits your style and personality, try it on for yourself.

The principles and concepts may be new to you but you’ll get used to it in no time. Although they may talk about different things, once you get the main idea, it will become easier to understand.

If you’re thinking of using pickup lines, first understand why they work and why they don’t work. If you don’t get how it’s done, using any pickup line will not do you any good no matter how many times you try it.

Mastering the art of pickup takes a lot of practice hours.

You won’t get there with just a few nights out. It literally takes several months and years for some to become really good at picking up really hot women if you’re starting at zero level.

The good news is there are a lot of attract women and pickup books these days. And there are countless dedicated coaches who’ve done it and are now teaching guys like you on how to become a pickup artist.

How to Overcome Fear of Rejection

It’s natural to feel a fear if you think you’ll be getting rejected. But you need to overcome this fear of rejection if you want to be able to approach and attract women.

When you think about it, this fear of rejection you’re feeling is only in your mind. It hasn’t happen yet. And you’ll never know whether she’ll reject your approach or be ecstatic that you did if you don’t overcome this fear.

Of course, rejection is part of the “game”. It wouldn’t be fun if everything goes well every time you try to open a girl and start a conversation.

But most of the time, it goes well. That’s because most women are social and they like being approached by great guys who know what they’re doing.

That’s right, if you’re a great guy and you know what you’re doing when you meet and attract girls, you’ll minimize your chances of getting rejected.

But this is not about that, this is about overcoming your fear of rejection. And there’s a couple of things you can do.

The first is to move forward in spite of that fear you’re currently feeling. It’s the most effective way and it’s the fastest and surest way to go.

If you understand that there’s always a chance of rejection no matter what you do, that rejection won’t matter. It will only serve as fuel for future approaches and a step in your ladder for gaining experience.

If you face rejection head on, it’s almost certain nothing can stop you from getting to know that girl.

Another way to overcome this fear is using a punishment and reward.

You can reward yourself every time you overcome this fear and meet the girl. And you can set a penalty if you don’t do it and you succumb to this fear of rejection.

If you’re with someone — a buddy or your wing — you can ask him to slap you hard if you didn’t do anything while you’re feeling this fear.

Overcoming the fear of rejection from approaching and meeting women is essential if you want to be able to attract any woman you want.

It doesn’t matter if you do it slowly or quickly. What matters is your overcome it and you continue to grow.

Why Men Fail With Women

Trying and failing is better than doing nothing at all.

So if you fail with women, don’t feel sorry about it. It’s part of the learning process.

But to get the most of it, you have to know why you fail with women. You can’t just keep failing and failing all the time. That will only make you look stupid.

To know why men fail with women, you need to look at what you’re doing right now. What you’re thinking. And what you’re feeling when you’re trying to attract women. The little things that hardly anyone notices.

Although you may think their small, they have a big effect on why you fail with women. And if you don’t want to keep failing, you gotta start small.

One of those small things is what you’re after. It doesn’t seem much but if it’s clear that you’re after something from her, there’s a good chance you’ll fail whatever it is you’re after.

You see, if it’s obvious that you’re desperate for her affection, you send to her this creepy vibe that repels her away from you. And most of the time, she’ll be running or pushing you away from her.

So don’t be desperate.

Be cool about it.

Not everything will go your way, and that’s just how it is. There’s no such thing as a perfect score. So don’t chase after it.

A lot of the reason why men fail with women is based on chasing after something (doesn’t matter what it is) when you should be focusing on the interaction and on the girl you’re interacting with.

It’s about being mindful of the situation you’re in and not caring about anything else. If she says ‘Yes’, be cool about it. If she says ‘No’, be cool about it, too.

Doesn’t matter what she says, you just be cool about it.

You’ll improve a lot and learn a lot just by observing and progressing the conversation. You’ll lessen your failures and gain more successes in the process.

How To Understand Women

If you’re able to understand women, you won’t have a problem trying to attract, getting into a relationship, and keeping that relationship with any woman on the planet.

That may sound too amazing, but that’s what I believe.

But to understand women, you must first understand yourself. And use that understanding of yourself to understand women.

Almost all women want and need the same thing from a biological and evolutionary perspective.

Yet, each woman is unique in their own way. That’s why most men think they’re complicated and confusing no matter what they try to understand them.

Knowing what they want in general is one thing, but individually, if you want to understand women, all you have to do is… listen.

Here’s what it means to actually listen: You have to give her your full attention. Make eye contact, give her some signs that you’re actually listening, and let her know that you understand.

Remember to pay attention to her body language. She may say one thing, but if her body language doesn’t agree to what she’s telling you with her words, you have to dig deeper to really understand her.

This does not only apply when she has something important to say. You have to observe how she is in the natural world. How she acts when she’s around you and how she reacts when you do something. How she is with her friends and family.

It may seem like a lot of work, but if you truly wish to understand women you’ll do it.

Talk to a lot of women everyday, get their opinion, and enjoy their company. There’s no replacement to being around women if you want to understand them completely.

How To Be An Alpha Male

The alpha male… every guy wants to be him, and every woman wants him.

But what is an alpha male? And how do you become an alpha male?

Well, in social animals, the alpha has the highest rank, the leader of the group. He’s at the top. He has preferential access to food, activities, and mates. And he protects the group and takes care of them. That’s his role. And it’s also where the term “alpha” originally came from.

In man’s social settings, the term carries the same meaning. The alpha male is also the leader of the group, often the dominant male. But he’s neither the strongest (or toughest looking) nor the loudest (as some would have you believe.)

So this tells you that you can only be alpha, if you remain true to the word, if you’re in a group setting. That’s where the alpha male truly shines. You can’t lead if you got no one to lead, right?

So how do you become an alpha male whether you’re in a group or not? Keep reading…

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